Unemployed = Stress
Thursday, November 12, 2009
What scares me most is that our benefits were thru my former employer and they will end at the end of November. Being without healthcare is scary especially with three kids.
I guess what I am most annoyed about is my former employer did not give me a reason as to why they were letting me go. I am assuming cost cuts because my department/area was not doing well at all but it would have been nice for them to tell me. Also they did not lay me off so no severance for me. No severance = no pay.
I am now scrambling to find a job so that I can start to make some money in order to pay the bills. I am trying not to really let the kids know what is going on because I do not want them to worry. Melinda and I are doing enough of that for the whole family. Sabreena is 13 so she knows what is going on and Shaun knows I am looking for a job because I am home every morning when I typically wouldn’t be but that is about all he knows.
So right now life SUCKS! It is hard and I am stresses and worried. I feel like a failure and like I let my family down because we are in this situation. I will keep everyone updated on my progress. Please pray that I find a job soon or maybe hit the lottery. LOL. Guess I need to start playing the lottery in order to win.
November 12, 2009 2:22 PM
you are not a failure.
good luck in your job search, I hope you find something quickly!
November 12, 2009 3:43 PM
I am so sorry to hear. I hope you find a new job REALLY soon!
November 12, 2009 3:46 PM
Oh no Rob! I'm so sorry to hear that. I hope you find something really fast! Good luck!!
November 12, 2009 3:48 PM
First and foremost, you are NOT a failure and you have NOT let your family down. That is absurd.
Millions of Americans want to be working and aren't because of the economy. I'm sorry to hear about the sudden shift because that is quite lame of them.
But failure isn't even applicable here. And letting your family down would comprise of you not searching for a job, not wanting the situation to change, and not putting them before yourself. None of which you are guilty of.
Beat down those doors and I know you'll find something. Sorry to hear you're going through it but the situation has no reflection on you as a husband or father.
November 12, 2009 3:53 PM
I say listen to Greg because I can't put it into words any better than he did.
November 12, 2009 3:58 PM
I say listen to Amanda who says listen to Greg.
And I'll add that I'm so sorry this had to happen. I will be sending all my best good thoughts your way.
November 12, 2009 3:59 PM
Oh Rob.....I am so sorry to hear that. You are certainly NOT a failure and I highly doubt you let your family down in any way. Your employer has but not you. I will be praying for that new, great job to be there quickly...or the lottery :)
November 12, 2009 4:05 PM
I'm so sorry this has happened. Listen to the others above: you are NOT a failure. I hope you find new employment soon.
November 12, 2009 4:19 PM
I find myself saying this a lot lately, but yeah on what Greg said.
You are trying to change the situation and that is what matters. The health care can be a big issue so I hope you can find something soon. It is so tough right now. Good luck Rob!!!
November 12, 2009 4:29 PM
HUGS HUGS HUGS! You are not a failure! I will keep you and your family in my thoughts & prayers !
November 12, 2009 4:37 PM
Rob, you're most certainly not letting your family down. It's not like you ASKED to be cut from your job!!! Big hugs to you and your family. xoxo
November 12, 2009 4:50 PM
I hope you find a new job really, really soon. I'm sorry that this happened!
November 12, 2009 4:54 PM
So sorry to hear about this! And I have to agree with what everyone else said you are by no means a failure! I hope something works out for you soon!
November 12, 2009 5:05 PM
I am sorry to hear that you are going through this. You are not a failure. I hope you find a job quickly.
November 12, 2009 5:37 PM
Rob, I am so sorry! Being unemployed sucks. I hope that you find something soon.
November 12, 2009 6:12 PM
Praying you fins something fast... keeping fingers crossed for you!
November 12, 2009 6:20 PM
In MA you would still have the right to claim unemployment and collect. Have you looked into it?
November 12, 2009 7:53 PM
Stay vigilant and aggressive and don't give in to the thoughts that tell you you can't get through this. You can and you will. Create a daily action plan and follow it no different than you would at work. Stay as busy as possible and look to your children as motivation.
You're not a failure.
November 12, 2009 8:58 PM
I hope you find a job soon. Best of luck to you and your famly.
November 12, 2009 9:11 PM
Best of luck in your job search, it's happening to a lot of people lately :(
November 12, 2009 9:46 PM
I'm so sorry this is happening to you and your family. I will keep you all in my prayers that you find something really soon!
November 12, 2009 10:41 PM
Hope you find new employment soon. Sending positivity your way!
November 12, 2009 11:38 PM
I am SO sorry. You are NOT a failure. You are joining the ranks of a large part of the population right now. It stinks! Praying for you that you'll find something.
There are options for healthcare coverage for your family. You've been a contributing member of society, and now you have to take care of your family any way that you can. If that means govt help until you can get a job, then so be it. Hang in there!!
November 12, 2009 11:47 PM
I wish you the best of luck. I know exactly how you feel. I have been unemployed since January. Health care has been an issue for us also. It is scary, and I hope the economy picks up soon for all of us. I will say a prayer for you. Hang in there - you are not alone.
November 13, 2009 3:36 AM
Good luck in your job search, I hope you find something quickly!
November 13, 2009 9:55 AM
I am so sorry to hear that...i hope that you find a job real soon!
I'm sending lots of hugs your way!!
November 13, 2009 11:27 AM
Rob, I am so sorry that you feel the way you do, this is not something that is your fault though and you need to remember that. I don't believe for one minute that you are a failure just as I don't believe that my dad is either (he lost his job in March). The economy is tough and everyone is cutting corners where they can - unfortunately hard working, long time employees are those corners. You are in my thoughts, keep your chin up, something will come along.
November 13, 2009 11:35 AM
Greg and Amy say the words best. Prayers are going up for you and your family. Trust in Him, he won't let you down.
Marj M.
November 13, 2009 1:48 PM
Damn, you have to play the lottery to win. Know wonder I have not won yet, and I was thinking I was just a loser hah. Remember when one door closes another opens. Good luck with finding a job and you all are in my prayers.
November 13, 2009 3:04 PM
Oh my I am so sorry.. We live in such uncertain times don't we? My husband's industry is so crazy right now too.. he said people are getting laid off left and right..with no reason accept the "Economy". Will pray for you. It's time to rebuild America!
November 13, 2009 3:52 PM
Sometimes we take for grantide that we have jobs in the first place. It may not be the best job, but we have one when so many people do not. Hard times for sure!
heidi bokor
November 13, 2009 4:00 PM
You are not a failure Rob. My husband was laid off twice in the past and yes it is a horrible feeling and all you do is stress. We are waiting again because rumor is over 300 people will be laid off from his job. I will pray for you and your entire family. HUGS!
November 13, 2009 6:14 PM
Praying for you and the family. This is a hard time for everyone. There was probably nothing you could've done to salvage your job. They made a decision and unfortunately, you get to live it.
You might feel like a failure, but it's not your fault the country is in the toilet economically. You did what you could for as long as you could. Now you're part of the millions of other qualified people in the unemployment line. Many of them didn't ask for or deserve to be in this position.
Blessings on you all as you navigate these unchartered waters.
~Mimi
November 13, 2009 6:19 PM
You are definitely not a failure! You are not alone with your feelings. There are way too many of our friends and family that are going through the same thing right now. I will keep you and Melinda and your children in your prayers. Good luck and keep us posted!
November 13, 2009 9:40 PM
My thoughts are with you guys right now - I bet you find a killer job that's way better than the old one! (I know, it's just super hard in the mean time!) Hang in there!
November 14, 2009 6:30 AM
HUGS Sweetie my hubby hits that line on Monday :( and its gonna hurt!
prayers that you find a job soon. HUGS
November 14, 2009 6:27 PM
Hugs and Positive thoughts sent your way. You ARE NOT a failure! You are awesome!
Kas
November 15, 2009 4:35 PM
Oh no, I'm so sorry to hear this! You definitely are not alone. My mom was laid off and my step dad was issued a huge pay cut! You guys are in my thoughts, keep your chin up!
November 15, 2009 4:44 PM
I'm really sorry to read this. You're not a failure, and I hated reading that.
Don't lose faith, and keep looking. I understand this is tough time, but this too shall pass. (hopefully very soon)
~ Rose
November 17, 2009 4:16 AM
I am sorry to hear this. I got let go from my job a couple of weeks ago and am scrambling to find a job as well. I am so stressed and worried. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers
November 24, 2009 12:16 AM
I am so sorry about this...obviously you didn't fail your family. You aren't a loser.
you need lots of hugs and some chocolate lol..:(
November 24, 2009 3:47 AM
Oh, no, I'm so sorry! We went through this as well, and we ended up starting our own business. We eventually closed that one and started a new one that's still going today. So maybe this is an opportunity, even though it SUCKS while you're going through it!
December 2, 2009 10:51 PM
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